If itās possible for a 10-year-old to feel both sadness and happiness at the same time, then Ethan Young likely experienced those emotions Wednesday.
A fifth grader at Albert S. Hall School in Waterville, Ethan went to the school on Pleasant Street to return a violin he had used during the school year.
It was an opportune time for that, as school officials had set Wednesday as a day fifth graders and their parents could pick up studentsā personal belongings and school work. When the kids left the school on a Friday in mid-March, they didnāt know they would not return this year because of the coronavirus pandemic.
Wearing masks, teachers were outside the school at tables surrounded by large, see-through plastic bags with all sorts of things inside.
āThere are markers and crayons and pencils, notebooks, math books they worked in this year,ā school principal Barbara Jordan said. āThey were in their desks. Some of them left in March without their boots, so the boots are in the bags. We had our teachers and technicians come in and pack up each childās belongings, just so it was presented to them nicely.ā
Accompanied by his mother, Lori Williams, Ethan got to see his teacher, Cathy Lovendahl, maybe for the last time in person, as he will be entering the junior high in the fall. They were happy to see each other.
āIf I could make the rules, Iād say we all come back for a day at the beginning of the school year in the fall, just to say good-bye,ā Lovendahl said.
Though Ethan misses seeing his teachers and classmates, he understands the gravity of the situation and why schools must remain closed.
āItās scary,ā he said. āIn America, itās the most deaths from coronavirus.ā
He, his mother and Lovendahl talked about the assignments he has been working on at home in math, science and writing. Williams, his mother, said he has two assignments per day and he works on them at times that work for him. Lovendahl praised his writing skills.
āIāve been impressed by your writing, Ethan,ā she said. āI almost feel youāre doing more at home than in the classroom.ā
They chatted about his violin lessons with the schoolās string teacher, Colin Wheatley, whom he misses. His mother said her father, Tommy Williams, is a fiddler who played many years for the band in the television show āHee Haw.ā Now 82 and living in New Mexico, he also performed for āThe Judy Lynn Showā in the 1950s and ā60s. Ethan is very proud of his grandfather.
āHe loves to show his friends YouTube videos of him,ā Williams said.
Aside from schoolwork, Ethan has been helping his mother with yard work and exercising.
āWe live next to Colby and we have a huge, 115-pound dog and he runs on the trails there,ā Williams said. āWeāve been doing that quite a lot.ā
Ethan will turn 11 on Sunday, Motherās Day, and he wants a trampoline for his birthday. Williams said the one she wants to buy him is out of stock, but she has been told it will be available June 1.
āMaybe itāll come earlier ā you never know, ā Lovendahl said.
Ethan and his mother lingered a while before getting into their Jeep to leave.
Afterward, Lovendahl, a 30-year teacher, said it has been sad, being away from her students.
āIāve really missed them,ā she said. āI can maintain these connections through a computer, but itās not the same as face-to-face and being in the classroom and seeing the reaction on their faces and knowing who āgets itā and who doesnāt. Teaching is all about the connections and relationships I built with my students, and thatās the missing piece right now. Itās hard to connect through a screen.ā
Jeni Frazee, who has been teaching 20 years, said the last few weeks have been an emotional roller coaster.
āUntil we got online learning up and going, it was disorienting and hard,ā she said. āAnd then joy, when people were coming into the online classroom. Itās just so precious, and then thereās the frustration when you call and call and call and try to reach out to students and you donāt make a connection. You just want to know theyāre OK and they have what they need.ā
Frazee said everyone is adapting to the new way of doing things.
āWeāre working as teams, helping each other. Teachers are sharing so freely with each other. I think thatās whatās getting us through. Another piece Iām learning is how to have a lot of compassion for families and what theyāre going through, but also to have compassion for ourselves. When we work very, very, very hard, we need to find moments to say, āItās OK.āā
The students who visited the school Wednesday did so with a mix of emotions, according to Frazee.
āIt seemed like it was overwhelming to them,ā she said. āThey were so quiet. One little boy, I said to him, āThank you for always being so kind.āā
Jordan, the principal, said 100 fourth grade parents with students retrieved belongings on Tuesday and about 85 did so on Wednesday.
Parents are working hard to support students and teachers, and teachers are working hard for them, she said.
āItās amazing. Weāre really appreciative of the work that theyāre doing.ā
The children smiled when they saw Jordan and the teachers. The fifth graders, especially, were a little emotional because they will not return to the school in the fall and had little chance for closure, according to Jordan.
āI think they miss us,ā she said. āI think they miss school and the routine and structure and security that comes with being in school. We miss them, too. We do.ā
Amy Calder has been a Morning Sentinel reporter 32 years. Her columns appear here Saturdays. She may be reached at acalder@centralmaine.com. For previous Reporting Aside columns, go to centralmaine.com.
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